You Don't Suck!Mar 08, 2022
I don’t know what I’m good at?
In celebration of International Women’s Day 2022, I am presenting a four part series of insight and reflection that will take you from feeling lost and lacking confidence in yourself, to having clarity on your strengths and a positive mindset.
Too often as women, and especially as mothers, we feel lost. We have lost our life. We have lost ourselves. We have forgotten what we like to do. We have forgotten what we can do. With this four part series I want to help women just like you. I want to help you to understand that you’re not alone. I want to help you to understand how you ended up here. I want to help you to rediscover yourself and get out of this rut. Because, and this is really important to understand, you can change your life, this doesn’t have to be permanent.
Part 1 - You don’t suck!
You don’t suck!
That’s right, I’m talking to you my friend, and I am telling you… you don’t suck!
I know you go through days on end feeling like you're failing. I know you get to the end of the day and feel exhausted, but when you pause you also realise you haven’t done anything really meaningful, it’s all been errands. I know you feel like you are in mud, that there isn’t a clear way forward. I know you feel guilty that you feel this way. I know that you are doubting everything about yourself. I know you’re wondering if you can ever change it.
Why do I know this? Because I’ve been there too. I had evenings where I cried because I couldn’t see what I could do. I had days where I just didn’t want to get going because, what’s the point? I had days where I felt useless, like no one wanted me, like no one needed me. I’ve been where you are.
The really ugly truth is, this is normal. This is how mum’s have been processing their lives, focusing on the bits and pieces, the errands, the busyness of life. Not pausing to see the bigger picture. Actually, if we’re honest we are simply unable to see the bigger picture, because it’s all mud.
You find yourself wondering, is this it? Is this what my life is going to be from now on? Is this all there is?
My friend, stop right now. Stop beating yourself up. Stop being so tough on yourself. You are a wonderful person. You are an amazing lady. What you’re experiencing is normal, but it doesn’t have to be this way, it doesn’t have to be permanent.
How did you end up here? Well it was quite simple really. You had a career, you had children, and you got busy serving everyone else. You want to show up and serve your family, you want to be a good (frankly, a great) mum. You give everything you have to make sure all their needs are met. You focus on ensuring their wants are met. You do everything!
And in the process, you lost track of you. You lost sight of who you are. You forgot what you like to do. You lost confidence in yourself and what you can do. You let all your dreams fade away and focused on your family. No on purpose, you didn’t even realise it was happening, it was a natural slide.
But, and it’s a big but. In reality you can’t serve your family well if you’re not in a good space yourself. Have you noticed that you’re a bit snappy? Have you noticed that you yell more often than you would like? Have you noticed that the smallest things tip you over the edge? Have you noticed you’re a bit sarky with your husband?
These are all indicators that you’re not in a good space yourself. These are all signs that you need to make a change. AND, this is really important for you to know and understand, it doesn’t have to stay this way. Feeling this way doesn’t have to be permanent.
You can change this AND continue to serve your family, but in a better, more positive way. You can make positive personal changes in your life, and have a better connection with your family.
How? By rediscovering what you’re good at. By looking at everything you do and can do, and identifying your strengths, and how your strengths can serve you. You can do this, and I am going to show you how.
In Part 2 we will delve into your strengths, and I will provide some guiding steps you can take to rediscover what you’re good at.
In the meantime, if this sounds like something you would like to explore further privately in a one on one conversation, I invite you to book a FREE call with me. Let’s connect and talk about your situation and how you can change it. This is a FREE call, there is no obligation, simply allow me the opportunity to support you. Book your call here - https://calendly.com/expatparentingabroad/coaching